The ignorance of meaningful perception

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Single or married?

I was catching up with the re telecast of Talking Point on Rosebowl. The topic was about remaining single or married. The point was which gives you more happiness. It's hard for one to reach a conclusion on such topics and there was this huge argument on girls being forced to get married by 23-24. By putting a certain age limit for marriage does make one's marital life much much organized. But one must not be forced to an extent where we might end up taking a hasty decision about our companion. I think for women, getting married at 25-26 is apt for them to plan their family life and balance their career alongside.

This whole notion that women lose their freedom after marriage is an absolute myth. Of course we have to change or compromise in a way to blend well with the ways of our partner but that certainly does not imply that we have to give away our freedom. Perhaps the way we apply our freedom might have to change. But that only changes the route; it does not take away the freedom from us. For a woman to get married at her mid twenties helps her in planning her future, her companion's future and the future of the generation she is going to build thereon. Honestly I am today's woman but I do not see my self lonely at the age of 40 , nor do I see myself being a mother to my teenage child at sixty. A mother has to be physically and mentally fit to nurture her child's growth. It has a lot of biological factors too. I am implying only on women here because there was so much of fuss being created on whether women should get married by 20 or after 30. More than the age factor it depends on when we feel settled. Also God has made women in such a way that they mature my 13 or 14 already. But today's lifestyle, which has become a necessity, has definitely not prepared a 13 year old to nurture a family of her own like olden times. I remember that during school my classmate had a brother 7 years younger than her. Her parents had a late marriage and the kids even later. When she was telling me about their late marriage she suddenly realized that her brother would be 13 when her father would be 60. The amount of effort parents have to put on a child saturates at their teenage years. When a parent is not physically prepared for that it could affect their child who is bound to go through a risky path being a teen. I hope that explains why we have certain age strategies for women and men when it comes to marriage.

Education, career, a secure future had made today's woman very independent and capable of self decision making. But we must not forget about evolution. After a certain age I am sure none of us want to die lonely however popular we are to be surrounded by 'people'. To have that special someone is definitely much more than 'people'. Staying single until you find the person is justified totally :)

Growth has to be there in all forms be it the human brain, discipline, maturity or the future gen. Meeting of the two sexes is a beautiful purpose for cultivating the human farm. So one should stop being too insecure about losing out on their freedom and instead let things happen the way nature had bestowed upon us.

Nine@Night is featuring Neelathamara singer, Shreekumar at 9 PM exclusively on Rosebowl tonight. You can catch its repeat on Sunday morning 9 AM :)

The Gen Gap

I don't know what's with the old generation comparing the quality of today's music with their's. After watching a lot of interviews I decided I should write about what I think about this argument which has been happening for quite some time. Why should one even compare two generations? If it is mandatory then do it on fair grounds. Music recorded in the 80s are extremely commendable and I doubt if any of the young singers today can record a song in one take.We have lot's to learn from the olden style of recording.But I totally disagree with the notion that today's music is not golden enough to be heard on a repetitive basis and that few month's after a song's hit status it is discarded . Now you see why this problem arises is only because today we have a lot of sources for the promotion of a song. In olden times how often could one listen to their favourite song? Maybe if they are lucky to catch it on the radio that is if they own one. And that is exactly why they value the song each time as they get to hear it exclusively. And today we have a hit song being played 24/7 on the Television, Radio, Ipods, and even Jukebox where you can request you favourite anytime you want to listen to it. So just think how many times you get to listen to your favourite song? Almost 300 times before the movie releases. So basically you get to listen to the song and watch it's video quite a number of times before the movie comes out in the theater. By the time the movie releases the next hit number ranks the list and everyone moves on to that. But in the olden times you get to listen to you favourite songs 300 times maybe ages after the movie releases. It's the wait for your clock to tick to tune in your radio hoping that tonight they will be playing your favourite number. That is why they never got bored of those songs as they hardly ever got to listen to it. I do accept that there a lot of rhythmic numbers which we soon tend to forget but there are so many wonderful melodies produced even today. Music has become so big that we have lakhs spent over a 4 minute promotional video for a movie which is soon forgotten with it's bon voyage from the theaters.

Another reason could be the range of music people used to listen in older times. In Kerala film songs were subjected to very few artists such as Yesudasji, Janaki amma, Susheela amma, etc. At those time we had 3-4 exclusive singers singing in almost similar genres for a period of time and today we have 5 new singers singing in 5 different genres for just one movie. Music listened to at those times were limited and the attachment to the existing ones kept growing. Music created was also raga centric as situations provided to them were also matchable. You never had a situation of kabhi kabhi aditi or a Blue at that time.


For example I love McD burgers. But if include them in my daily diet I will eventually end up hating it or will probably get bored of it. I love Devarajan master's Rajashilpi but if I only listen to it on a daily basis I will end up hating the song, the voice and everything related to it. Same applies here. We listen to different kinds of music in different languages and genres to enhance our knowledge and this way we never get bored of it. Where was the interest and opportunity provided to listen to different genres and world music at those times? Technology grew and so did man's quest to deepen his knowledge in World music. The change is so evident in the sounding of today's songs. Be it the mixing or the contemporary singing or be it the inclusion of fusion or be it the unplugged style or even the programming. Where does one have the time to recollect a beautiful melody created a year ago when everyday millions of songs are being produced worldwide and all available just a click away ? An analyzing of today's songs not being able to create a historical magic is subjected to each one's personal liking. But on the whole I would say it's very wrong to compare the music created in older generation to the present as it's not being done on fair grounds. The foundation is still the same and in fact has become more stronger but technology, medium and the like have upgraded to an incomparable position. Let Old be gold and let's help the new ones from not getting rusted. Lets accept the fact that our tastes have changed and that today every musician is much much brighter than the older times because of the facilities provided today. Instead of pin pointing on what's wrong let's see the glass half full ...

THE BIG ONAM SPLASH

which was telecasted in Rosebowl Channel on September 3rd have given me some really negative reviews. Lot of people called me after the telecast to tell me how hilarious it was but at the same time there were people who thought it completely threw of the image of some of the anchors. I wanted to write on this earlier but thought of it as a fun show but now after receiving some shrewd comments I decided to write on this though I am late by a week.

Firstly, this whole 'prankster on the prowl' was not planned! None of us would wantingly throw our dignity to raise the TRP of the channel. None of us need that. Each and every anchor is extremely professional when it comes to their work and we don't need any sort of short term publicity stunts to raise the TRP of our respective shows. So those of you who think it's planned I think I have cleared your doubt. Secondly, I do not know about the rest but I didn't feel good about it . I was absolutely helpless at that point. I don't have the rights to speak about the other gags as I was not present there while those were being taken. I can only speak to you about the gag played on me. I was told that Sudipto (Prankster) was a percussionist who has worked with A.R.Rahman and Himesh Reshammiya. I was also asked to hold a small interactive session with him asking about his experience and his future works. And apparently he was also asked to interact with me so that I can sing few songs and speak about my show, Nine at Night. Once the cameras were rolling he obviously started to speak about fake things to trap me. Now, some of the spectators had a problem with me not responding back and disagreed with me agreeing to all the nonsense spoken by Sudipto. Just look at it from a different angle. I am actually interacting with a percussionist from ARRs den so I need to give him the respect he deserves even if it's utter crap that he is speaking on National TV. In fact many of the celebrity guests in my show speak a lot of things that could work against their image. But since everything is cut off in the editing room you guys never get to watch it uncensored. When the gag was being played all I could think was that I am suppose to diplomatically handle this making sure I do not hurt Sudipto's feelings. So naturally I had to oblige to everything he had to say be it Kumar Sanu raag or Kutra raag or ramdev raag . I don't think I would appreciate any kind of rebelling in front of the camera on such a situation. It's also for the same reasons that I actually sang the different versions of Pardesi. I am a singer who is asked to use my creativity at various unprepared situations... and at that point I did feel that as a singer I proved my creativity even if a bunch of them had a ROFL. No regrets .. all was done to entertain each and everyone of you. But it would be nice if you could also think about the other side.

Once all of us got to know that it was a gag it was way too late to respond. But for that one person who commented against this , please, if you did'nt like it and if you think we lost our image then you may kindly switch the channel and watch something which probably matches your dignity levels. After all man and science have come up with a wonderful electronic invention - the remote. Thank you once again for all the good , bad and very bad reviews :D ... Keep watching Rosebowl and have a wonderful post-onam week.

"Sach Ka Samna"

The hype created about this show is just way too less than I had expected it to be. This whole debate on whether India is prepared for it or not is absolutely baseless. TV being the largest medium for publicity, there are umpteen shows today be it reality or fiction... you can just simply switch the channel if you find any particular programme obscene. There are very few people left in this kalyug who want to free themselves off the burden of their sins.. if not all atleast the lies. One should appreciate and someone rightly said that politicians should definitely take up the hot seat. I really salute all those contestants who really have the guts to take up the hot seat and reveal some of the most deadly secrets of their life. And the best part of the show is it is voluntary decision of the participant which actually illuminates the purpose of the concept. Cos it shows the confidence in him/her. HT was discussing about this at centre stage and there was this big guy who was bragging about how unprepared India is to face this. But the best part of the whole debate was when Rajeev Khandelwal asked the big guy about teaching our children to lie instead of facing the truth to which the guy gave an absolutely vague answer. Funnily, the people who have big mouths to say the worst are the ones who end up not missing a single episode...People should learn to accept the good things of our society and should also digest the fact that it's a heap of truth and not a heap of crap. For those who give it a thumbs down .. please make the effort of extending your hands to this gadget known as the remote which is magically the mode through which one can exercise 'ignorance is bliss'.

The Shiney Ahuja case has completely shocked me cos I never expected him out of all the stars to do so. I never got time to watch the channels as I was busy with my own work but when my mom told me about this I was completely taken aback. The guy has just started off and is pretty much talented.. then what made him do so in the absence of his infant is quite horrifying. It's so sad to see such cases where one is completely helpless . The whole thing of the fashion world and Filmdom being corrupted is only being proven right day by day. The respect for the industry falls so low and it's very hard to just ignore it.

About child labour regarding the child artists who are acting in Balika Vadhu, etc. should not be made a big deal about. I mean if the children are comfortable with it ,it's a good way to boost themselves at such a young age besides serials like Balika Vadhu impart a lot of knowledge one has to know. It may not change things immediately but if an effort is being made , it definitely does not become a waste. Also the child artists are doing a commendable job. So talented! and I wonder where they find the time to juggle up their homework’s with their shooting schedules. The children are the light of the serial. Without them the title itself is so meaningless. I hope they are not removed on the basis of 'child labour'.

The other day I was listening to Page 3 expert Simi speak on Sheetal Mafatlal case. What Simi said about the case was that the treatment given was totally unfair. Something like things worth more than 2 crores are not allowed to be carried. She gave this very interesting example of one who is probably carrying a gown or an Armani worth 3 crore aboard, he would have to be detained for paying the extra duty! kaise baat ka batangad bana gaya is a definite look out in this case and I won't comment much as I really haven't dug into the details but of what I heard from Simi I did feel that Sheetal was definitely being targeted for another purpose altogether.

Ve-forgot-land?

It all started at the dining where all of us were recollecting those wonderfull family trip memories. The discussion commenced with me sharing the Veega Land experience with all of them present there. And then the next obvious discussion was where was the next picnic destination to be planned. I've been to Essel World just once when I was really young..and the agony that clawed me cos of inadmissable to most of the biggie rides made me want to go there once more. So while I was persuading my mum about going to Essel World again...my aunty happened to ask which one is the best amusement park in India. According to my knowledge I said that Veega Land is the best in the South and Essel World in the North. Then suddenly recollecting my geography, I made a correction saying that the latter is in the South.. so that makes it the best in India and the former, second. Then started the hot arguements among me and my aunties. The debate was whether Maharastra forms the Northern or the southern part of India. But I felt I had learnt something like the state being a part of South India though it is mistook by a lot of people of it being a Northern part cos of the Bollywood and so on. I would want to know if Maharastra forms the Southern part or the Northern part of India. I felt it would be wiser if I got genuine comments than googling it.

The Astro-facts

This is with regard to the 'man made fate' post I had written a couple of days back. I received quite a lot of comments regarding this. I haven't said that astrology is a wrong thing and that astrologers are just making profits by trying their luck. There is a lot of study and research done on this subject. And whatever I am going to write today will be about things I have pondered about all my life...and nothing that is googled. Atleast for the meanwhile.

Jinu, a blogger had commented that 'there are some cheap souls trying to make money out of this talking about heavenly bodies and their angular tilt'.Now, as far as I know..this is a sensitive issue which is highly debatable but there are certain truths which have to be accepted though they might seem to be mythical and hallucinatory. Many of you must have returned unhappy after a visit to an astrologer's place. Perhaps because he said something about your fate ..that is unlucky for you or whatever. For some .. the astrologer must have played around with your dreams ,for example, he must have said that you will practice law when your studying medicine. Note , here I am talking about astrologers who are experienced enough.I was invited to sing for this Astrologers meet in Trissur and happened to meet scholars who majored at this subject. One Mr. Ravunni , a professor in astrology who is still in the midst of his research was sharing a lot of interesting facts during the meet. He said that astrologers can't be too precise about one's profession, life expectancy, emotional issues( like love/arranged marriage) ,how far one dasa will control,etc. He said ,an obvious reason could be that when a child is born, and the horoscope is made for him/her, time of birth is the most dominant factor taken into consideration. And even a minute's variation could change the whole thing. Now the question is when should the time of birth be recorded? When the baby's head is seen..or when the baby is seperated from it's mother by cutting the ambilical chord? A very argumentative doubt. This can only be sorted after 30 years when it is experimented on 4-5 children. Some nurses are very reckless while noting down the time of birth especially during the night shifts. Who knows..she could record it few minutes after the exact time. So this and many more factors contribute to one's fate.

Well astrology is true to some extent and let's leave it there. But if it is necessary for you to have an horoscope check every week on how your things will go..then maybe you should have a check with whether your parents horoscope is compatible with yours. And I am sure that if your horoscope for the day says that 'wear red. It is your lucky colour today' , you might indiscreetly wear everything that is red, leave alone being similiar to red! and what if the same horoscope asked you to 'run away from home. Your kith and kin could kill you'..would you then think of eloping?

Happy Women's day

Another year and yet another Women's Day. And all the media got to show was poor women living in slums, women working for less wages than men and mind you.. the same amount of work. A footage on a teen who was ditched by her husband after giving birth to his baby was also shown. Oh! even if it's something I see like everyday, to see it on a celeberation that to the Women's Day celebrations makes me feel flummoxed. It's appalling to see the tantamount situation each year which just makes it better by getting retrogressed.Waking up to a bright morning only to see the faces of a shoddily shaped women sector.Ofcourse it's not that we can't do anything about it. The list of culprits are way too long and it's unfair to blame it all on them.

Today in college we had a music theraphy session where Dr. Suvarna was explaining us about the importance of musical healing in our life. She showed us a profile picture of the human body in which rays of light were interepreted,in the picture ,in the form of colours.Beggining with the white shade depicting the sun's ray.The white shade is then followed by the VIBGYOR.Out of this I will explain the impact of colour green and red. The colour green falls on the chest of the human body and to be precise the colour has an illuminous impact on the female body. The Green of the VIBGYOR represents mother earth and the warmth that her child inherits. Whereas Red falls under the abdomen cos of which sexual instincts are born. Excess of which produces the animal instinct in a human. Leads to obvious crimes like theft, rapes, murders,etc. Through musical theraphy they are trying to raise the level to the brain which is embraced by the Violet colour which will lead us to salvation.The presentation was followed by a musical session by Bhuvaneshwari who commenced the concert with a sloka in Nattai ragam followed by a keethanam in Charukesi.

The two extremes of women-the successfull and the less successfull have to be analysed so as to raise the level of humanity and not only achieve the 33% of legislatures.There was this debate on NDTV on the status of women. And each time I found all the ladies arguing about men stopping them from going to work. And the women CEOs said that they would prefer a man working for them cos they are too impatient too tolerate a woman's tantrums.Tantrums or responsibilities? Not too sure about which word to use in terms of debate. If women cannot tolerate women..then who will? Maybe we should be more flexible and should stop thinking self centered. Anyways to make this a happy ending like OSO :) here's a forward ..

"A woman has strengths that amaze men. She can handle trouble and carry heavy burdens. She holds happiness, love, and opinions. She smiles when she feels like screaming.She sings when she feels like crying, cries when she's happy and laughs when she's afraid.Her love is unconditional! .... there is only one problem with her, she sometimes forgets what she is worth. Happy Women's Day!"

Immortal issues

Well,I really dislike debating over common topics but there are some issues you just cant ignore or rather are too provoking.Well I've witnessed so many arguements on whether love marriage is more applicable than arranged. Another famous topic for discussion is whether uniforms are to be initiated in colleges. Then we've got the Nobel award winning topic: If men are smarter than women.
I was wondering the other day if men are more egoistic than women.I don't know if i am right by saying that half of the time,women compromise because they have digested the fact that men can never get emotional and can never fall at our feet (implied only majority and not all ).And yes,we have seen the upgrade of the women community by eminent leaders and all but still don't you think somewhere we women -atleast indian women do follow our tradition and have learnt to adjust and compromise on the silliest of the matter.The point i want to stress here is that women compromise first.This does not refer to just romantic relationships,could be something between siblings,parents,or even friends.